RECENTLY with everything that is covering the media and papers, I have decided to start a facebook group called,”I believe in love”. Just because Love is the most powerful tool of all. Love so seldom spoken is as critical for your mind and body as the air – Oxygen. It’s not negotiable. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.
It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don’t love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.
Today, I am just gonna share the love between two people – a man and a woman. There is a mythology in our culture that love just happen. And that is so not true. And sadly, when we hit real love we become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal. Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced.
There are always core differences between two people, no matter how good or close you are, and if the relationship is going right those differences will surface. The issue then is to identify the differences and negotiate them so that they don’t distance you or kill the relationship.